Whitney Houston had a popular hit in the 80’s called, “The Greatest Love of All”. I heard this song so many times when I was growing up but I didn’t really grasp the lyrics until I got older. Time has taught me many lessons and I am about to share a big one with you. Here is a quote from the song.
Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfilled my needs
A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me.
I was in a constant search for something that was going to make me feel alive. It took the shape and form of many different things. When I opened up my business I felt great because I had a new interest or purpose to occupy my time but after all the hard work and newness faded, I began searching again..
I really wasn’t lacking anything. My children were happy, I felt connected in my intimate relationship but the lack of struggle was something so unfamiliar to me that I had to create it to feel normal. I wanted more, I was still chasing an illusion.
Tall, dark and handsome appeared at the exact time I was craving struggle and I jumped into this magical illusion head first and didn’t look back. I mentally created this person to be everything I had ever wanted in a man, I found my hero.
It shouldn’t surprise you to know that he couldn’t sustain my idea of him and I couldn’t tolerate his total humanness. So after the hormones subsided and reality smacked me in the face, I was left my self- inflicted suffering and a ton of wisdom.
The hero isn’t in the man, job, friendship, religion, car, house, trophy, lottery winning, weight loss, shoes, money, vacation, wedding or you get the point. All those things can be amazing blessings but it isn’t the hero.
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all”
I’ve made interesting choices because I thought I needed them to feel complete. I have respect for my journey and I have been and still am exactly where I need to be. However, avoiding a few detours along my path is something I am more privy too now. My fulfillment comes from a place inside of me. A feeling of totality, completion and contentment. I am enough and so are you..
And if by chance, that special place
That you’ve been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love
It is possible to end the search for the hero outside of yourself and just BE. It’s possible to create passion, intentions and dreams without being trapped by the idea that right now isn’t enough. And more than that, it is possible to love yourself unconditionally.